Would You Like To Live By Default, or Design Your Life?
Designing your life isn’t exactly brain surgery or rocket science. Part
of the challenge is that we often seem to get in our own way. I’m sure
that you have noticed how much easier it is to help someone else sort
through all of their sticky issues than it is to sort through all of your
own sticky issues. The reason for that is a simple matter of perspective.
There’s an old adage I use that goes like this:
“Perspective adds wisdom in any given situation.”
That’s a great little adage that someone way back when penned. When you
say this, most people will nod in agreement, “Yea, yes... that’s true.”
But getting perspective on yourself, by yourself, is like trying to
observe your eyes “seeing.” About as close as you can get is to look at
your eyes in a mirror.
If you don’t have a strategy or a plan for your goals and ideas, they
“might” happen, after all, ANYTHING can happen. But then you are waiting
for other people to “get it together” before you take action. The “wait
and see” motis-operanti” is what I call, “living by default.” There’s
nothing inherently “wrong” with this, and you’re not a “bad person” if you
do that. However, you may be waiting around a very long time for your ship
to come in, or opportunity to “knock at your door.” Just remember that
when “opportunity knocks,” it’s usually wearing WORK CLOTHS! In other
words, you’re going to have to roll up your sleeves and get to work.
It’s also a good thing to remember that if your have something really big
that you want to do or achieve, no one is going to care about it as much
as you do. Even if you hire people to help you do the tasks needed to
achieve your goal, they’ll only be there as long as you are paying them.
It’s a rare thing for people to give you their time and sweat equity just
because they like you.
Well, here’s the good news. Personal Coaching is an outstanding tool for
self-perspective and the creation of plans to solve problems and achieve
goals.
In my training to be a personal coach I have noticed that most coaches are
very much alike. We all tend to be introspective, patient, empathetic,
compassionate, calm, thoughtful, resourceful, positive, upbeat people who
thrive when seeing others do and be all they can do and be. We tend to be
“possibility thinkers” combined with a healthy dose of down to earth
reality.
People who hire personal coaches often have the same experience. After
they get into the flow of the coaching, they are amazed at how it is that
just by “talking” to someone, doors seem to magically open for them and
they make progress that exceeds their wildest imagining. People who have
coaches tend to be very focused and clear about what they want and what
they’re doing. The net result is like finding a rigged slot machine or a
short cut towards their ideal destination.
Would you like to find a short cut towards your dream life or a rigged
slot machine? Here’s how!
Are You Looking For A Short Cut?
Wouldn’t it be great if you could find a short cut to your dreams?
Remember when you were a kid riding home in a car late at night from a
family outing? Your eyes get droopy and BAM! Before you know it, you're
home. “Did we take a shortcut home Dad?” I used to ask. “Sure we did son.”
I’d hear from the front seat.
Having a personal coach is like finding a short cut to your dreams because
a good coach can assist you in finding the shortest distance between where
you currently are and where you’d like to be. In the process, you can save
huge amounts of time and money figuring out what works and what doesn’t
work.
Even if you are not into sports, I’m sure that you have noticed that the
world’s best athletes all have coaches and wouldn’t compete without one.
We’ve all heard that life is a series of events with the present moment as
the main event. Do you want to get in the ring and slug it out all on your
own, or would you like to have your coach in the corner. Where would Rocky
have been without his coach, Mickey?
Coaches aren’t just for people who play sports.
Let’s look at the sports metaphor. Every great athlete has a coach. What’s
amazing about sports coaches is that as players, most, but not all, were
only okay players. However, they possess an extraordinary understanding of
“how” the game is played. They know the game inside and out. They also
have the ability to see what a player needs to do in order to perform at
their best. The best sports coaches aren’t just tactical-physical
technicians. They understand how to support and guide players emotionally
and spiritually as well.
Personal Life Coaches are very skilled listeners. They not only listen to
the words that are being spoken in a coaching session, they are listening
for and tuning into the subtle underlying messages within a coaching
conversation. By asking pertinent questions, a personal coach can cause a
shift to occur in the thinking of the person being coached.
What separates a coaching session, as opposed to a chit-chat session with
a friend or relative, is that the coach has nothing to prove and therefore
does not engage in one-upsmanship or simply being polite, waiting for the
other person to stop talking so that they can get the microphone and tell
you what’s on their mind. When this happens in a conversation there’s
actually very little listening going on between the two people.
Coaches listen intensely and since the conversation is for your benefit,
they’re not on the other side thinking of what they want to say when
you’re finished with your statement. Coaches just take in the conversation
and after a period of time, will ask questions that are directly related
to what’s up with you at the time. It is an amazing process that gives
cause for new possibilities to be brought out as a result of a skillful
listener and questions that open up the thinking mind to new
possibilities.
Back to the sports metaphor for a moment. An Olympic athlete wouldn’t
dream of competing in the Olympics without a coach. We tend to see coaches
most of the time with baseball players, football players, fighters, or
gymnastic athletes. Obviously, the coaches aren’t able to slide into home
base, catch a Hail Mary throw, slug it out in the ring, or perform on the
parallel bars the way young athletes do. But they know what to look for,
how to suggest, and how to guide the players.
Personal coaches are the same. A personal coach may not know all of the
fine details of your profession, but because they are new to the topic and
have a broader perspective, they can see trends, possibilities, and
patterns that the coachee often misses because they are too close to their
own situation.
Who Uses The Services of a Personal Coach?
People from all walks of life and all stratus of the social-economic
playing field hire the services of a coach - business owners, entrapeneurs,
corporate executives, managers, freelancers, students, artists,
construction workers, retirees, doctors, lawyers, stay-at-home moms, and
more. Coaches come from every background imaginable and are very
resourceful people. In other words, they often know someone, who knows
someone, that might have an answer for you if they don’t had a direct
answer for you. They are very adept at pointing you towards the next step
in your journey of creating the life of your dreams.
By using astute observations, supporting, guiding, suggesting, and
encouraging, a good coach can help you to leap frog your way towards your
ideal. In the process they can save you hundreds of hours and months of
your life’s time and possibly thousands of dollars as well.
So What’s Your BIG DREAM?
Is there something that you have always wanted to do, but were never able
to get traction on to move you towards your goal? Most of us have some
kind of big dream that has never come true. It could be running for public
office, writing a book, singing in coffeehouses, racing a sports car,
traveling the world... WHATEVER! If you have a big dream or goal, hiring
the services of a personal coach is time and money that is highly
leveraged. In other words, for a few hours a month and few hundred
dollars, you can be on the fast track towards seeing your dreams become a
reality.
A Personal Coach can assist you in the creation of a set of blueprints for
creating a life that you would love. Stop for a moment and reflect on the
fact that except for the things that occur in nature (trees, animals,
weather, etc.) everything else that you see was once an idea in someone’s
mind. They took their ideas, formulated them, had conversations, formed
plans, and carried out the steps necessary to bring their ideas into
reality. Anyone can do this... including YOU.
Your ideas are just as valid as anyone else's ideas. Bringing your ideas
into reality is where the challenge lies. A trained Personal Coach can
assist you in making your dreams come true.
K. Scott Teeters is a Personal Life Coach, Reiki Master, and author of"
It’s Time To Wake Up: Reiki & Other Essential Tools For Spiritual
Awakening" published by Llumina Press. Scott’s coaching website address
is... http://www.lifeyoulovecoaching.com To schedule a FREE 30-minute
coaching call, send an e-mail to: lightoak@comcast.net, or call:
609-714-0261
Scott lives in Medford, NJ with his wife and business partner Karen (also
a Personal Life Coach), Spudz their beagle dog (not a Personal Life
Coach), Mittins the tuxedo cat and Twiggy the tabby cat. His book website
address is: http://www.itstimetowakeup.com
They also have a very cool, online metaphysical gift store. Stop on by for
a visit at: http://www.freespiritgifeshop.com
This is an excerpt from Scott & Karen
Teeters’ soon to be available e-book titled, “Design The Life You Love &
Have Fun Doing It.” This dynamic new e-book will be available by the end
of April 2005. For more information about this e-book, go to
http://www.itstimetowakeup.com.
K. Scott Teeters is a Reiki Master and author of" It’s Time To Wake Up:
Reiki & Other Essential Tools For Spiritual Awakening" published by
Llumina Press. Scott’s website is a metaphysical candy shop loaded with
essays, insights, awakening tools and tips, and amazing images.
Scott and Karen will be offering “Design The Life You Love” ebook,
workshops, and teleclasses by early Spring 2005.
They also have a very cool, online metaphysical gift store. Stop on by for
a visit at: http://www.freespiritgifeshop.com
Scott lives in Medford, NJ with his wife and business partner Karen, Spudz
their beagle dog, Mittins the tuxedo cat and Twiggy the tabby cat. His
website address is: http://www.itstimetowakeup.com
